Something that I have truly been wholeheartedly working on is how I respond to certain situations. There have been so many times when I wanted to jump onto social media to air out my feelings toward men because of some frustrating encounter. Those times I just want to give myself the freedom to express that anger openly, but I don't.
Instead, I think long and hard about it. This isn't to say that I haven't had to audibly tell myself not to post a fully fleshed out post. I just make sure that I actively talk myself off of that cliff. I do this for a few reasons.
It is not worth my energy. Being angry takes energy that I am not willing to exert, especially for someone who did not care about my feelings. This has evolved into what my friends call my "f*** it" attitude. There are so many times when I will say to myself "girl f*** it." It is my way to release all of that energy in a way that is not harmful. I don't take ownership of those negative feelings. I acknowledge them then let them go cause I need to move on. I got shit to do.
My response will ALWAYS say more about me than it does the other person. How I respond to a situation will let people know if I'm bitter, if I have been hurt, if I am guilty of self-sabotage, and even my perceptions of my own worth. Now don't get me wrong, many men are absolute worst. (jokes...) However, if I am constantly on social media saying "I hate men" or posting memes that are aggressive toward men, eventually the question arises, "then why the hell do you keep digging in the trash for love." That is a whole post right there.
Lashing out does not solve anger and frustration because it does not address the true reason of why your are frustrated or angry. Period.
I have really been having to deal with these lately, especially since I decided to download a few dating apps again. I already deleted one though. When it is time, it will happen.
When the urge to lash out on social media hits, do some focused deep breathing.